I am going to talk
about a theory I have.And, I have a little bit of something or other to prove it
actually may be correct. I have this belief that if I were to disappear off the
face of the earth on Sunday evening apart from family and work nobody would
miss me. I once noticed that with a couple of friends it was always me that was
doing the phoning to see what the craic was. So I decided that was it, it’s up
to them to phone me-as they never did. I mean, they know where I am, and how to
get hold of me. I have not heard from them since I made this decision- and that
was about twenty years ago. One of them only lives about 6 miles from me, and I have not seen him since that plan started.
Obviously they weren’t the friends I thought they were. But I really do believe
that if I was abducted by aliens,did a disappearing act or something the only
ones who would miss me would be family and work.
I was reading one of those self help books, and an exercise
had a question-If you were told you only had one month left to exist on this
world –after the usual stuff like saying your goodbyes and getting the
technical stuff sorted-it asked you to list the things you would do. I realized
that I would do nothing, I wouldn’t even tell anybody-just go to work as
normal, and hopefully the day I cease to exist would be at the weekend-bet on
Monday x-factor or strictly would still be the main talking point over my demise.
Was reading a couple of articles in one of them healthy
living mags –“outdoor fitness” and there
was an article about an Australian and his Bucket List. He had 100 items
in it-and has got me thinking about doing something similar. I don’t think I’ll
make the 100 like he did-so some suggestions would be welcome. That is if
anybody sees this.
i like your idea of the bucket list. i once thought of doing one of those and realized i don't really have things i've thought of that i want to do. and i'm too lazy to think about it more. but would love to hear what you come up with. sorry about your foolish friends. geez.
ReplyDeleteWhat about the guys in your hiking club? I, for one, would notice if you stopped emailing me and would miss your correspondence. But I know how you feel, on some level anyway. I've often felt that way about the people I call my friends too. Ninety percent of my social calendar is a result of my own efforts, which can get pretty exhausting and demoralizing. I once did an experiment where I stopped asking people to do things--stopped trying to plan activities and get-togethers--for a month. And guess what? Only one person invited me to do anything with her, 2-3 times during that month. No one else seemed interested to spend their free time with me. Last year a friend who knew I was having a rough time of it threw me a birthday party. It was wonderful to see so many people come to wish me happy birthday--but part of me was a little bitter that so few of them ever called to see how I was or if I wanted to go to a movie. I think it's a real struggle for singletons after a certain age, especially those of us with introverted tendencies (me) who nevertheless like to get out of the house and talk to people from time to time.
ReplyDeleteI like the idea of making a list of things you want to do/places to see in your life. It can give some focus to the other stuff you do day-to-day, and I find it's helpful to be planning something that I can look forward to, especially if it's a trip or a concert or other fun thing I've "always wanted" to experience. A couple of mine are: see the Great Redwoods in Central and Northern California and see the Northern Lights. I've also thought about taking a refresher French class or becoming a regular volunteer with some sort of charity organization as a way to spend my time and meet new people (and improve myself in the process).